Author: SicilyTalks

I am a God fearing Woman. I take nothing for granted. I live everyday as if it is my last. I enjoy living, I enjoy serving the Lord. He is my beginning and my end. It's in Him that I live and move and have my being. He is the air that I breath. He is my source. He is the reason for the little success I do have. Eyes have not seen, ears have not heard, neither has it entered into the heart of man, the things that God has prepared for me. My motto is freely you receive, freely you give. I try my best to remain humble.I treat everyone with respect. I am an entrepreneur! I believe in sharing the wealth. I would like to see everyone succeed in life. I am not a hater!! But I am quite misunderstood and mistaken for being stuck up...not... I am the most down to earth person you will ever meet. I don't let people in easy but if I do you will agree. I the Founder and CEO of Elegance & Style Salon located inside Gurnee Mills Mall since August 29, 2005. I am a licensed cosmetologist and make up artist by trade. I am currently pursuing my educator/instructor's license. I have served my country in the United States Army. I am a world traveler as well as a travel agent. Fashion is my niche. I love to shop. I have a wealth knowledge and I consider myself a very wise woman....I consider myself a "Jack" or "Jill" of all trades! There is nothing I cannot do!!! That's all for now folks!! Happy Blogging!

Proverbs Chapter 1

Day 1 of our 31 Day Proverbs Challenge

In studying this chapter. I learned the following:

1. The purpose of proverbs is to teach wisdom and to teach people to live disciplined and successful lives, to help to do what is just, right and fair. To give insight to the simple and knowledge and discernment to the young.
We should start teaching our children wisdom when they are young.

2. Wisdom is knowledge that is gained by having good experiences in life. The natural ability to understand things that most others cannot understand. (discernment) the ability to discern inner qualities and relationships. Mere common sense, good judgement.

3. The fear of the LORD is the foundation of true knowledge, (godly wisdom) but fools despise wisdom and discipline (worldly wisdom)

4. We should listen, learn and pay attention to correction and instruction because it will protect us from trouble and disaster.

5. It teaches us not to fall into traps that are set to make us fail.

6. Not to rush to commit evil deeds. Because you set an ambush for yourself. You are literally trying to get yourself killed. Such is the gate of all who are greedy for money;  it robs them of life.

7. Wisdom cries out to us and if we ignore it disaster will overtake us Nd wisdom will then ignore us and not give us a way out. Ignoring wisdom you choose not to fear the LORD. You choose to live your own way so you must suffer for doing things your way.

8. But all who listen to wisdom will live in peace, untroubled by fear and harm.

Lord, give me wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Help me to stay in the fear and admonition of you. So I can live a disciplined and successful life. A life full of peace where no fear dwells! In Jesus name, Amen!

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Ask For Wisdom

This is a 31 day challenge. Starting January 1 – 31, 2016 we will read a Chapter from the book of Proverbs each day. During this time you read the chapter, pray and ask God for wisdom. Ask God to show you the areas in your life where you are lacking and show you how to apply his word and wisdom to your life.

Now be prepare for God to show you the truth about you. The word shines light into every dark area of our lives. Keep a journal and write down what God has revealed to you and the necessary steps you need to take to make this change. Whatever he reveals to you, take it one day at a time. He will guide you and lead you.

Once, you have read the word, sought counsel from God concerning your life, prayed to God asking for help, now have faith and thank Him for doing a new thing in your life!

Now ladies in day 31 I really want you to study proverbs chapter 31. Character and development as women and wives is key here in this chapter.

Live life in Victory! You are more than a conqueror!

Join the challenge with me! If you have any questions feel free to ask in the comment section of this blog or email me at perfectlyimperfectwithsicilymoss@yahoo.com

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Sure Foundation

There is a story/tale of three little pigs who built their own houses. The 1st pig built his house with straw. The 2nd pig built his house with sticks. The 3rd log built his house with brick. Then there was the bully, the big bad wolf came to the 1st pigs house and blew it down. He did the same with the 2nd pigs house that was built with the sticks. The wolf did not win the battle with the 3rd pigs house because he built it with brick that withstood the wolf.

In life we tend to do or build what is easy, quick, simple, without considering the tools, or materials being used, not considering if it will withstand, the storms of life, such as sickness, disease, fear, doubt, trials, tribulations, fiery darts from the enemy, thoughts of suicide, condemnation, temptation, sin, failure, loss of job or income, and the list goes on.

Matthew 7:24-27 Jesus makes things clear to us.
Build Your House on the Rock

24 “Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock.25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. 26 And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand.27 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”

You might ask what is this rock? The Rock in which Jesus is talking about is “The Word”, the truth, the revelation and wisdom you receive from the word. Let it be your foundation for ever decision you make and everything you do.

Wisdom is key:
James 1:5-6New Living Translation (NLT)

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind.

Proverbs 4:7New King James Version (NKJV)

Wisdom is the principal thing;
Therefore get wisdom.
And in all your getting, get understanding.

Proverbs 1New King James Version (NKJV)

The Beginning of Knowledge

1 The proverbs of Solomon the son of David, king of Israel:

To know wisdom and instruction,
To perceive the words of understanding,
To receive the instruction of wisdom,
Justice, judgment, and equity;
To give prudence to the simple,
To the young man knowledge and discretion—
A wise man will hear and increase learning,
And a man of understanding will attain wise counsel,
To understand a proverb and an enigma,
The words of the wise and their riddles.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge,
But fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Proverbs 2New King James Version (NKJV)

The Value of Wisdom

2 My son, if you receive my words,
And treasure my commands within you,
So that you incline your ear to wisdom,
And apply your heart to understanding;
Yes, if you cry out for discernment,
And lift up your voice for understanding,
If you seek her as silver,
And search for her as for hidden treasures;
Then you will understand the fear of the Lord,
And find the knowledge of God.
For the Lord gives wisdom;
From His mouth come knowledge and understanding;
He stores up sound wisdom for the upright;
He is a shield to those who walk uprightly;
He guards the paths of justice,
And preserves the way of His saints.
Then you will understand righteousness and justice,
Equity and every good path.

10 When wisdom enters your heart,
And knowledge is pleasant to your soul,
11 Discretion will preserve you;
Understanding will keep you,
12 To deliver you from the way of evil,
From the man who speaks perverse things,
13 From those who leave the paths of uprightness

Sicily has spoken!

Today!

Question? Why do we need 365 calendar days to start a new beginning? If I read it correctly I thought His mercies were New every Morning. When the sun rises and sets and rises again, we have a new beginning, another chance, to start fresh, get it right or do things better. Don’t waste a whole year wollowing in mess when you can get up and clean yourself off and start all over again when the sun rises and you open your eyes for the very first time again on a very new day! I’m glad I don’t have to wait a whole year to get free! I’m glad I don’t have to wait a whole year to be forgiven! I’m glad I don’t have to wait a whole year to get it right! I have Today! Tomorrow has its own sets of problems or blessing but I know Today I have the chance to make things right! Amen! Today! Can you say today! Not 2016, not 2017, not 2018 but Today! I can call on Jesus and he has the power to do it Today!
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Got Strength?

There are times in life when we get tired, sometimes lose faith and focus. The enemy is giving you everything he’s got. Trial after trial, circumstance after circumstance, but I am here to tell you don’t give up because you have help! I’ll show you now.

Isaiah 40:31 says

But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strengththey shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

The key phrase in this scripture is “wait upon the Lord”. The term wait upon in this scripture means “to serve”.

So this scripture is telling me that if I serve God then I will:
1. Mount up with wings as eagles. An eagles wing span is very large and they have the ability to let the wind take them very high! Serving God will elevate you and take you places you never thought you can go. Not to mention in Proverbs 18:16 A man’s gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men!

2. Run and not be weary. This one kind of puzzled me because I thought how can running make you weary?  It simply means that I can run hard after the things of God and not get tired,  while serving him at the same time! Now that’s good news!

3. Walk and not faint. Hmmm?
The bible tells us in Galations 5:16 to “Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh” and in Galations 6:9 “and let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Walking in the Spirit while serving God keeps up from getting weak,  dizzy, losing focus and consciousness or temporarily distracted. There is a reward when we endure temptation and we reap benefits by serving and not getting weary and giving up!

Now the question is, what does it mean to “serve God”?  Romans 12:1 tell us “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God which is your reasonable service. You accomplish this by praying, reading, praising, and worshipping God, fleeing from sin, obeying God and keeping his commandments. Do good to others, help the poor, feed the hungry, etc.

So in this life that we live serving God clearly has its reward in more ways than one. I will leave you with this scripture 1 Kings 18:21 ” and Elijah came into all the people, and said, “How long will you falter between two opinions? If the LORD is God, follow Him; (serve Him)

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What to do when you don’t know what to do

This blog post is dedicated to my Pastor Joshua Randolph. He preached a word on Sunday and I have been studying and meditating on it all week long.

For many of us this has been a very difficult and trying year. It has been one obstacle after another. Sometimes you feel like you can’t catch a break.

As I studied the word God gave me a formula to share. From now on we will not be caught off guard, we will stay ready and we will be equipped for any and everything that comes our way.

Isaiah 59:19b
When the enemy comes in, like a flood the Spirit of the Lord will lift up a standard against him.

The word standard used in this scripture  is a banner which represents or is used by a leader to signify His position of authority, particularly in battle. His standard. As we talk about authority Luke 10:19 NKJV states Behold, I give you the authority to trample on serpeants and scorpions and all the power of the enemy, and nothing by any means hurt you.

So now we know God has authority and has given us that same authority. So how do we use it or what do we do when we are being attacked by the enemy?

We must first recognize according to the following 2 scriptures: II Corinthians 10:3-6 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.

Ephesians 6:12 KJV For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places

Here is an example in scripture on how to fight this battle and how to use our God given authority and remember it’s not with our fists.

2 Chronicles 20New King James Version (NKJV)

Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir Defeated

20 It happened after this that the people of Moab with the people of Ammon, andothers with them besides the Ammonites,[a] came to battle against Jehoshaphat.Then some came and told Jehoshaphat, saying, “A great multitude is coming against you from beyond the sea, from Syria;[b] and they are in Hazazon Tamar” (which is En Gedi). And Jehoshaphat feared, and set himself to seek the Lord, and proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah. So Judah gathered together to ask help from the Lord; and from all the cities of Judah they came to seek theLord.

Then Jehoshaphat stood in the assembly of Judah and Jerusalem, in the house of the Lord, before the new court,and said: “O Lord God of our fathers, areYou not God in heaven, and do You notrule over all the kingdoms of the nations, and in Your hand is there not power and might, so that no one is able to withstand You? Are You not our God, who drove out the inhabitants of this land before Your people Israel, and gave it to the descendants of Abraham Your friend forever? And they dwell in it, and have built You a sanctuary in it for Your name, saying, ‘If disaster comes upon us—sword, judgment, pestilence, or famine—we will stand before this temple and in Your presence (for Your name is in this temple), and cry out to You in our affliction, and You will hear and save.’10 And now, here are the people of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir—whom You would not let Israel invade when they came out of the land of Egypt, but they turned from them and did not destroy them— 11 here they are, rewarding us by coming to throw us out of Your possession which You have given us to inherit. 12 O our God, will You not judge them? For we have no power against this great multitude that is coming against us; nor do we know what to do, but our eyesare upon You.”

13 Now all Judah, with their little ones, their wives, and their children, stood before the Lord.

14 Then the Spirit of the Lord came upon Jahaziel the son of Zechariah, the son of Benaiah, the son of Jeiel, the son of Mattaniah, a Levite of the sons of Asaph, in the midst of the assembly. 15 And he said, “Listen, all you of Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem, and you, King Jehoshaphat! Thus says the Lord to you: ‘Do not be afraid nor dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle is not yours, but God’s. 16 Tomorrow go down against them. They will surely come up by the Ascent of Ziz, and you will find them at the end of the brook before the Wilderness of Jeruel. 17 You will not needto fight in this battle. Position yourselves, stand still and see the salvation of theLord, who is with you, O Judah and Jerusalem!’ Do not fear or be dismayed; tomorrow go out against them, for theLord is with you.”

18 And Jehoshaphat bowed his head withhis face to the ground, and all Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem bowed before the Lord, worshiping the Lord.19 Then the Levites of the children of the Kohathites and of the children of the Korahites stood up to praise the Lord God of Israel with voices loud and high.

20 So they rose early in the morning and went out into the Wilderness of Tekoa; and as they went out, Jehoshaphat stood and said, “Hear me, O Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem: Believe in theLord your God, and you shall be established; believe His prophets, and you shall prosper.” 21 And when he had consulted with the people, he appointed those who should sing to the Lord, and who should praise the beauty of holiness, as they went out before the army and were saying:

“Praise the Lord,
For His mercy endures forever.”[c]

22 Now when they began to sing and to praise, the Lord set ambushes against the people of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir, who had come against Judah; and they were defeated. 23 For the people of Ammon and Moab stood up against the inhabitants of Mount Seir to utterly kill and destroy them. And when they had made an end of the inhabitants of Seir, they helped to destroy one another.

24 So when Judah came to a place overlooking the wilderness, they looked toward the multitude; and there were their dead bodies, fallen on the earth. No one had escaped.

25 When Jehoshaphat and his people came to take away their spoil, they found among them an abundance of valuables on the dead bodies,[d] and precious jewelry, which they stripped off for themselves, more than they could carry away; and they were three days gathering the spoil because there was so much.26 And on the fourth day they assembled in the Valley of Berachah, for there they blessed the Lord; therefore the name of that place was called The Valley of Berachah[e] until this day. 27 Then they returned, every man of Judah and Jerusalem, with Jehoshaphat in front of them, to go back to Jerusalem with joy, for the Lord had made them rejoice over their enemies. 28 So they came to Jerusalem, with stringed instruments and harps and trumpets, to the house of theLord. 29 And the fear of God was on all the kingdoms of those countries when they heard that the Lord had fought against the enemies of Israel. 30 Then the realm of Jehoshaphat was quiet, for his God gave him rest all around.

Now let’s take a look at all that we just read.
King Jehoshaphat was ruler at the time and he was warned that his kingdom was gonna be attacked by rival Syrian nations that the Lord himself spared when he brought the children of Israel out of Egypt. Now this was a huge army and the King himself was fearful however look what he did first, despite his fear:

1. In verse 3 he set himself to seek the Lord and called a fast throughout all Judah and they all obeyed and sought the Lord

2. He gathered the people together and he himself prayed to God and he reminded God through prayer that he has authority over all nations and asked God to save them from destruction. He recognized that this was a battle that was too great for them and could not be won with weapons

3. They waited for instruction from the Lord. I’m verses 15-17 he told them tomorrow go down against them. You will not need to fight this battle. Just position yourselves and make your presence known. Stand still and see the salvation of the Lord

4. Once they received the word of the Lord they bowed down in worship before the Lord and sang praises unto Him in verses 18 and 19

5. The day of the battle Jehoshaphat encourage the people to believe in the Lord to continue to have faith in God, then he appointed those to sing and praise the Lord. Now as they began to sing and praise the Lord. The Lord set ambushments against the armies they turned on one another and killed each other one by one. They went and looked over the hill and saw that all their enemies were dead. They rejoiced and retrieved all the spoils of war and did not lift a finger. It took them 3 days to gather the goods because it was so many.

Seeking God for directions, worshipping and praising him in the midst of the battle and trusting and believing that God is who he says he is and he will do what he said he will do is the formula for every battle you face. Every trial you face! Witness victory after victory. Let the Lord fight your battles! Give him all the Glory!
Remember step one is to pray and wait for instructions
Step 2 is to worship and praise him
Step 3 is to stand still and see the salvation of the Lord. To keep the faith and to trust and believe!

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Know When To Separate

If you have strife and confusion in your life, perform a quick inventory and drive out the people or thing that is  disrupting your peace.

Strife: angry or bitter disagreement over fundamental issues; conflict.

Let’s take a look at Abraham and Lot as an example:

Genesis 13 New International Version (NIV)

Abram and Lot Separate

13 So Abram went up from Egypt to the Negev, with his wife and everything he had, and Lot went with him. Abram had become very wealthy in livestock and in silver and gold.

From the Negev he went from place to place until he came to Bethel, to the place between Bethel and Ai where his tent had been earlier and where he had first built an altar. There Abram called on the name of the Lord.

Now Lot, who was moving about with Abram, also had flocks and herds and tents. But the land could not support them while they stayed together, for their possessions were so great that they were not able to stay together. And quarrelingarose between Abram’s herders and Lot’s. The Canaanites and Perizzites were also living in the land at that time.

So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for we are close relatives. Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.”

10 Lot looked around and saw that the whole plain of the Jordan toward Zoarwas well watered, like the garden of theLord, like the land of Egypt. (This was before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.) 11 So Lot chose for himself the whole plain of the Jordan and set out toward the east. The two men parted company: 12 Abram lived in the land of Canaan, while Lot lived among the cities of the plain and pitched his tents near Sodom. 13 Now the people of Sodom were wicked and were sinning greatly against the Lord

Now you see that Abraham and Lot were both blessed but they came to a point where they outgrew their current position or relationship. There was not enough room for the both of them. It is clear that Abraham was the wiser of the two and suggested they both go their separate ways. He evaluated the situation and made a wise decision and solution at the same time.  In life we outgrow friends and sometimes family members and it is not always a bad thing. Certain goals, or plans that are greater than our current position just don’t fit our current lifestyle and it is now time to separate and elevate. You will see in the following scriptures what happened with Abraham once he separated from Lot. If you read previous scriptures Lot was never in God’s plan to tag along with Abraham from the beginning. Sometimes we hold on to people and things because we feel obligated and in reality we are hindering out next, blessing, next promotion or elevation. Here is the result of Abraham finally obeying God and separating from Lot.

14 The Lord said to Abram after Lot had parted from him, “Look around from where you are, to the north and south, to the east and west. 15 All the land that you see I will give to you and your offspring[a]forever. 16 I will make your offspring like the dust of the earth, so that if anyone could count the dust, then your offspring could be counted. 17 Go, walk through the length and breadth of the land, for I am giving it to you.”

18 So Abram went to live near the great trees of Mamre at Hebron, where he pitched his tents. There he built an altar to the Lord.

So as a result of Abraham’s obedience he came into his inheritance, The Promise of God. It is true that obedience is better than sacrifice. What are you holding on to or afraid to let go of that is keeping you from going to the next level, getting that promotion, your million dollar invention, your next business, your husband or your wife. It’s time for us evaluate and put it to action. It’s time to elevate and move forward. Are you ready?

Repeat this prayer after me:
Lord I am ready to surrender to your plans for my life. I let go of ….. and I submit. Reveal to me my next step, where I should go and what I should do. I am listening and I will do. Remove all strife, pride and contention from my life and I receive your peace. Holy Spirit guide me into all truth. Shine your light into all areas of darkness in my life. I thank you now Lord for the Victory, in Jesus name, Amen!

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Here are a few scriptures on strife for meditation.

Proverbs 13:10 NIV
Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.

Proverbs 18:6
The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating.

Proverbs 17:1
Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife

Proverbs 22:10
Drive out the locker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended.

Proverbs 20:3
It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel

Psalm 55:9
Lord, confuse the wicked, confound their words, for I see violence and strife in the city.

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“To thine own self be true”

The title of today’s blog is a quote from William Shakespeare’s Hamlet. 
“To thine own self be true”

What is truth or what is true? Truth is defined as: sincerity in action, character and utterance. So truth is evident in what I do, who I am and what I say. They are synonymous. John 8:32 NKJV “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” So if you are not true with yourself and are living a lie you are in bondage.

Simply put, we must be truthful with ourselves before we can be truthful with anyone else.  I must come to grips with my own thoughts, behavior, words, as well as actions before I can point the finger at someone else. I must look in the mirror and see and examine myself. I must be willing to deal with the good, the bad and the ugly of self.

Self evaluation is key when it comes to growth, progression, elevation and maturity in one’s life. The Apostle Paul states in I Corintians 13:11….”When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” Paul was conscious of his childish behavior and thoughts and he recognized when he matured and grew up and began to think differently, and speak differently. Life’s experiences teach us lessons in growth if we are willing to learn and change. I hear people say quite often “age ain’t nothing but a number”. Come to find out its true because I have witnessed adults in their 40’s act like children with no morals and standards. Just downright careless and selfish in their thinking. I have witnessed young adults in their early 20’s carry themselves more respectfully and more mature than people twice their age. I ask myself why is this so? I came to the conclusion that behavior is learned, environment, upbringing all play a factor in one’s character but most importantly everyone has the ability and the right to choose. We all know right from wrong, the truth, from a lie. We know if what we are doing will affect or hurt someone else. So why do it? In the society we live in now, I do not speak for all but I have noticed an increase of selfishness and not enough selflessness.

I have done some self evaluating over the past week. I actually learned to evaluate myself and my motives for why I do what I do many years ago. When I would have a disagreement with someone I would ask myself, what part did I play in escalating the matter, what could I have done differently, what do I need to do to be the bigger person and make it right. In the times that I was unhappy, I asked myself how did I contribute to my unhappiness? You see I realized that I played a huge part in the things that made me happy and the things that made me unhappy. I realized that I would put others before myself, which is not wrong but there were times where I was very loyal to people who were not loyal to me. I put others before myself, that if the shoe was on the other foot they would not do the same for me. I realized it was okay to be selfish sometimes, to protect myself from the users, manipulators, deceivers and the downright lazy. I started doing what in my heart I wanted to do. I compromised when I knew for myself it was the right thing to do. I have never been a follower. I’ve always done what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. But there was a point in my life where I did not have balance and I have found balance again.

Situations, circumstances, trials and tribulations can force you into a place where you have to look in the mirror. It’s all about the lesson that needs to be learned. When I find myself in a trial I now ask myself, “Lord, what am I to learn from this?” The trial I am currently in now is teaching me more humility and patience. I am also learning that it is the most unlikely people who will have your back and support you in your time of need. I realized how prideful and stubborn I can be. I do everything myself. I have trouble relinquishing control. I have the “I ain’t depending on no one” attitude. That’s all I’ve known since I left my mother’s home at 18. I’ve done it myself, by myself and I have carried my own load. Now I know that I have to learn to let go sometimes, relax and let someone else help me. I need to learn this for the next chapter in my life…for ministry, for increase in business and finances and for my Prince Charming when he comes along.

So I encourage you to take inventory, look in the mirror and don’t ignore what you see. Embrace the truth about you and start working on your foundation brick by brick. It all takes time but we have to start somewhere. Start with the Word. Read the bible. It will be a mirror and a measure of who we are and who we need to be. Forgive and let go of past hurt, and past mistakes. It will only keep you from being the King or Queen God called you to be.

Coming into the knowledge of the truth starts with our way of thinking. Philippians 4:8 gives us a way, a path to accessing truth: “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.

I leave you with this simple prayer:

Lord, help me too see the truth concerning myself and have the courage to change the way I think and act. To become a better me and in the end bring glory to you. In Jesus name Amen.

Sicily has spoken!

Daily Confession Challenge

Positive confessions can be encouraging and healthy for your mind and soul. They should be done daily. I have created a confession of my own and I challenge you…the reader to create one of your own as well and make it a daily practice of confession. Mine reads as follows:

I am Sicily Moss

I was created with a divine purpose. My life is purpose driven, full of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, determination, perseverance, prosperity, anointing, wisdom and truth. I am a virtuous woman. I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the image and likeness of God. I have been crowned with his light and glory. No weapon formed against me shall prosper #ROCKYODAY My enemies are my footstool. God has given me all the power over the enemy. The Sovereign Lord has filled me with his Spirit. He has chosen me and sent me to bring good news to the poor, to heal the broken hearted, to announce release to the captives and freedom to those in prison. God has given his angels charge over me to protect me wherever I go. All my needs are met. I have favor with God and man. I am strong. I am healed. I have abundance and no lack. I am debt free. My memory is blessed. My health is blessed. Everything I put my hands to do is blessed. He has not given me the spirit of fear, but of power and love and of a sound mind. I am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus. I have been seated in heavenly places. My name is written in the Lamb’s book of life. I am the head and not the tail, above and never beneath. I am a multi-billion dollar entrepreneur, teacher, motivational speaker, world traveler and philanthropist. He prepares a table before me in the presence of my enemies. Goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life! In Jesus name, Amen.

Sicily has spoken!

Evaluating Relationships

I don’t consider myself to be a popular person. I have been quite the opposite. I am a loner. It may seem funny to most but it’s true. Growing up I was shy, soft spoken and very intelligent. I discovered I had a natural ability to read people early on in life. I would know if they were good or bad. I didn’t make friends easily. I was my momma’s first child and I was a girl. So she sheltered me and kept a close eye on me. Elementary school was easy. It was easy to make friends because as kids we are innocent. There was no prejudice among us. As we got older and we began to change and mature some of us grew apart.

I can account for 2 long term friends. One from the age of  9, unofficially and I will explain that in a moment and the other from the age of 16. Those that I do not mention, please know this for the sake of an example and don’t feel left out. Plus, most of you are more like family than friends and you know who you are. I will call them Friend #1 and Friend #2

Friend #1 Encounter

As children we visited our grandparents in Rolling Greens Apartments almost every single day in the summer months. This particular day I was wearing a t-shirt and some cut up shorts my Aunt Elaine made for me. Those were her signature shorts. I believe she started that fashion trend. We were playing in the “circle” and this young lady my age dressed in her Sunday’s best, whom I never met had something negative to say about my cut up shorts my Aunt Elaine made for me. End result of talking about my shorts, was a beat down. Her and her little sister went into the house crying and it all ended with my mom cussing her dad out through their window. Long story short, from that day forward Friend #1 and I fought every day we saw each other from the age of 9 until the age of 14. It was quite funny now that I think about it. We had our last fight and some special fairy dust was sprinkled on us and some how we became the best of friends that day and then boys also came into the picture then. Friend #1 and I are the best of friends to date! We have never, ever had a falling out or disagreement and we are always there for each other when needed and we do not live in the same state!

Friend #2 Encounter

I recall my early teenage years and I remember playing outside having a great time. The back door opens, then the screen door opens and they appeared my mother, what happened next would embarrass anyone….she would yell “Siiiiiiiiccccciiiiiillllllyyyy” to the top of her lungs. It was if she had a bull horn. As embarrassing as it was, that was her way of telling me that it was time to come in the house. Obviously, if I was not in range of the sound of her voice, I was in big trouble. I couldn’t leave the porch.  I couldn’t have boyfriends, I couldn’t talk on the phone, because it was my fault the phone was disconnected because I was bored from being stuck in the house all the time babysitting my sisters and brothers, so decided to take up a hobby of calling the infamous “Party Line”. I ran that bill up so high. I didn’t like going places or meeting new people. Well after years of being sheltered and cooped up in the house, my mom told her friend’s daughter to come over our house and get me because I didn’t like people..lol. I still don’t like people. Friend #2 came to the door knocked on it and I answered. She said “your mom asked me to come over here to get you. Why don’t you come outside?” I politely told her “NO” and closed the door. You see Friend #2 used to fight all the time and be in all kind of mess. I remember because I spent a whole lot of time people watching. I ended up giving in and giving friend #2 a try. We became great friends. We were broke at the time so we would borrow each others clothes and shoes to extend our wardrobe. Back then I had a scary curl and her mom was a hair dresser. She gave me a relaxer and cut that curl out of my head and gave me a cute short cut and she worked a miracle on Sicily at the time. It built my confidence up even more. You see, I didn’t care what people thought of me then. My mom taught us to mind our own business and to treat people how you wanted to be treated. I remember my grandmother telling us “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Friend #2 and I share some great high school memories. Then when I graduated and went to the Army and she had a daughter and our lives changed. We stayed friends over the years but we sort of grew apart. It was because of Friend #2 inviting me to church that I gave my life to Christ July 25, 1999. My life wasn’t bad at all then. I left home at 18 and vowed to myself that I wouldn’t be broke another day in my life. So I’ve worked and worked and educated myself. Unfortunately Friend #2 and I grew apart. I have so many fond memories with Friend #2. Just growing up as 2 broke teenage girls…we should have had a camera crew following us back then.

Those were 2 examples of my relationship encounters early in life. Over the years I have developed a knack for knowing when or when not to allow someone in my life. I call it the “Asset or Liability Assessment.” How will this person negatively or positively influence my life. Any situation whether business, friendships, personal relationship you should have some way of assessing the pros or cons or the plus or minus’.

Asset can be defined as:

1. A valuable person or thing

2. Something useful in an effort to foil or defeat an enemy

So by definition I can say a person that is an asset is one who can add value to you and help you when it’s time to get down and dirty…lol (just a little humor) or your time of need and vice versa.

Liability can be defined as:

1. Something or someone that causes problems

2. One that acts as a disadvantage

3. Debt

I have developed my own way of determining who should or should not be allowed into the time and space of my life. I have never been on to befriend people. Somehow they are just drawn to me. First, I ask myself “What do they want from me.” Believe me, you know people by their conversation. Pay close attention to what they say. What they say is what they believe and what they believe is what’s in their heart. Scripture says, as a man thinks in his heart, so is he, and out of the heart flows the issues of life.” Time reveals all things. Next I ask the following:

1. Do they need to be in my life?

2. How would they be beneficial to me? Will they add to my success or will they take away and be a distraction.

3. How long are they supposed to be in my life?  Is it long term or just for a season.

Many times I just know right away not to fool with someone at all. My spidey senses (discernment)goes off and says “danger Will Rogers, danger.” For those of you who don’t know, that’s a line from the tv show back in the day called “Lost in Space”.This evaluation method has saved me from a whole lot of mess. Now everything isn’t perfect of foolproof, but this is a sure fire way to weed out a lot of drama.

Now we will tie all of this back into Friend #1 and Friend #2

Friend #1 and I have known each other since the age of nine. We started of as enemies and we evolved to a wonderful healthy friendship. Sometimes people and friendships grow and mature at the same pace you do, which is good. You guys are on the same path and the same level. Your communication is good. You can bring a misunderstanding to them and you can discuss it like adults without either party getting offended. Money isn’t an issue between the two of you. Money can be the root of all evil. Especially when it comes to friends. Fortunately money has never be a problem between Friend #1 and I. I value her opinions and she values mine. When I am wrong she tells me and I receive the correction and adjust. We have been a shoulder for each other to cry on. We have confided in one another and not once has what we discussed left either of us. That’s a true friend. I thank God for her. We are friends to the end!

Friend #2 and I have know each other since the age of 16. I thank God for her. God put her in my life during the most difficult time in my life. We share many memories, laughs and good times. I wouldn’t take it back if I could. But as time went on we grew apart. I remember someone asking me “What happened between you and Friend #2?” I thought to myself and I simply replied “She didn’t need me anymore.” You see whenever Friend #2 had a need, she would call me and I would meet it with no problem. She was my friend and that’s what friends are for. Honestly it was a one way street for the most part. Until one day my ex-husband and I had both been laid off of our jobs and it was a little difficult, but the Lord was still providing. I remember her calling me and telling me how she got her income tax and all the things she was going to do with it. I didn’t say a word, I thought to myself, “she knows all that I am going through right now but not once did she offer to help me out.” I didn’t say a word, I have too much pride. Honestly, that day was when I realized our friendship was based on what I could do for her and not what we could do to help one another. To date, I love her to death. We just don’t talk much. I just know what level our friendship is on. I am okay with that because I evaluated the situation and adjusted accordingly.

I have a funny friend encounter story:

I was in the bathroom at a club and this young lady compliments me on my skirt that I had custom made, asked me for my number and we have been the best of buddies every since. We are great travel companions as well. We don’t see each other often because our schedules don’t allow, but when we do, it is always epic and memorable in a good way. We are the dynamic duo!

You see people are in your life for a reason and for a season. Make the time you share with them count. Don’t be selfish. We all need each other in one way or the other. One day you can be up, then the next day you can be down. Never forget where you came from because you never know who you are gonna need. You reap what you sow, the law of reciprocity. Sir Isaac Newton and the Laws of physics explains it quite simply. Please click the following link.  Newton’s Third Law of Motion It’s a great read. It has some great examples.

Now, how you treat people is very important. Treat them with respect. Treat them how you want to be treated. You never know, someone can come along and treat you way worse than you treated others in your life. It’s not pleasant to get a taste of your own medicine. Do good and good will come back to you. Evaluate yourself. Are you an asset or a liability. If you are the latter then you need to change how you think and do some soul searching. Find out why you do what you do and deal with it. Make peace with your past. Forgive who you need to forgive or ask those you have hurt to forgive you for the wrong you have done. Self evaluation is very important and it is the key to any relationship coupled with healthy communication.

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. It was with great pleasure and humility that I am writing this!

A healthy friendship can clearly be defined as two people who are there for one another, to support one another, whether good or bad.#sicilytalks #sicilyhasspoken